Tag: adversity

Question of the Week #7 How do You Handle Adversity?

How do you handle adversity?

This week’s questions is a bit more hard hitting. Because that’s what adversity is. It isn’t an easy part of life and it shouldn’t be. Adversity is a growing experience in the journey of life. Usually it is a painful experience where giving up seems to be the easiest thing to do.

So how do you handle adversity? Do you give up or give in at the first sign of hardship? Or do you stand your ground and face the challenge head on? This is an important question to ask yourself because some form of adversity is inevitable in life.

Usually I would add additional questions for you to answer but I feel that it isn’t necessary for this question. The method of how you handle adversity should be the only focal point. That method used is the determining factor of the level of success you experience. So make sure to really take your time with this question.

There is only one way to handle the adversities that life throws your way. That is to keep moving forward. Persistence is the only way to overcome adversity. It is the attitude of your persistence that determines the outcome of your hardship. If you are negative in your frame of mind than with almost certainty the end result will be negative. If you go through adversity with a smile on your face, with the faith that the storm will pass and your life will be better. Then eventually your situation will improve.

Adversity is inevitable so make the most of the situation. View it as a valuable learning lesson and a growing experience. Your life will be more fulfilling when you do experience the heights of success. All stemming from the depths of adversity and how you handled it.

Rock Bottom #2: A Comeback For The Ages

So last week you were introduced to what rock bottom is. What it has done to so many lives and all of the potential swallowed in it’s depths. Now it’s time to stop the slippery slope and begin a comeback for the ages.

No one wants to be at rock bottom but sometimes its necessary to plunge into that proverbial pit to learn more about yourself. To go through that process of growth, painful as it may be, to experience the intangibles of life that is your dreams, hopes and ambitions. Its life’s way of asking you. How bad do you want it?

If you’re at rock bottom you know your fair share of adversity. You know what they say, the harder the adversity the bigger the comeback. It’s time to stop sliding down that slippery slope, get your feet of solid ground and begin the climb out of rock bottom.

This is no easy task. Life will try relentlessly to keep you down there if you allow it. This is your life and you deserve more out of it. Now is the time to make a declaration for your future!

Here are some affirmations for you to say to yourself everyday in the process of getting out of rock bottom.

  • My past no longer defines me
  • I deserve more and expect more out of my life from this point forward
  • I believe in myself. I believe in my dreams. I believe my future is going to be bright
  • I will improve myself every day. Giving my best effort each day
  • I am powerful beyond measure and life will no longer beat me down
  • I am courageous. I will do what is necessary to have a better life
  • Nothing can stop me! My willpower is too strong
  • My mind is my greatest ally. I will only focus on positivity. For that mindset shall bring me success and happiness

Say these affirmations to yourself. Say them with conviction. Put all of your emotion behind them. Believe that you will make a comeback in your life. Because you will.

Create a vision in your mind of what you want your life to look like. Focus on it and continue to think about it morning, noon, and night. Let it crystalize to the point that you see it as your reality. Make it feel real, as if you were holding a photograph in your hands. See it, hear it, touch it as if you already have it.

It’s time for your comeback. One that will echo through the ages. You can do it. I believe in you and the greatness that you have within you!

Rock Bottom #1: Introduction

It is a freefall to which mankind has had so many souls fall into its depths. Some rise out some stay there trapped for the remainder of their days. We all know its ugly name. Many of us have been there at one time or another through the journey of life.

Infinite ways of slipping down its slopes and various levels within its depths. It is a chameleon of sorts with each individual having their own perspective of this so called “monster”.

Rock bottom is defined as at the lowest limit or level possible. Meaning that you have hit your low point in life. It happens to the best of us. Life has a fickle way of beating us to our knees and kicking us when we are down. It is a cruel teacher that has no sense empathy. Cold hard truth.

All too often when life knocks you down a swell of negative emotions reaches a boiling point. The response being “why is this happening to me?” With that fear, anger, and resentment towards the cruelties that life may bring, we never truly see the answer.

Usually rock bottom hits when we have given up fighting for what we truly want in life. The “I quit” echoes throughout the far reaches of the universe. Life is just playing a game.

Too many souls to count have never been able to rise from the pits that engulf their lives. Hope seems dead and there is no escape in sight. It is a quiet desperation that is endured.

It is in these moments when we must search for a light. It’s there somewhere. Even in the darkest of times you can always find a light. It may not be much light but it beats the darkness.

Rock bottom isn’t the end of your journey in life, it is the beginning. There you will learn more about yourself than in the highest points of success. Why? Because adversity builds character. Every defeat and every failure in life brings with it a goldmine. Valuable learning experiences that develop character. As with gold you have to search for this value.

In reality rock bottom isn’t always a bad thing. It is a learning experience that can make our lives more fulfilling in the long run. With those defeats, adversities and failures along the way, the taste of success becomes that much sweeter.

Let’s not look at rock bottom or the down times in life as a tragedy. Let’s look for the value in those situations. For that may turn our lives around.

The View of Adversity

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit

Napoleon Hill

Life happens. There are ups and there are downs. It’s impossible to not have some down times throughout your life. It’s an inevitable reality. Those adversities, trials, tribulations, heartbreak and failures come in varying frequency. Some experience it more than others. But one thing is certain. It happens to all of us.

During these times, the question is often asked “why me?”. The pain from these moments often drives down to the negative spectrum of emotions. That’s because it harder to be positive when times are tough, to see the light when surrounded by darkness. By no means is this an easy task, life designed it to be this way to show you the beauty that these times may have in your life.

For it is in these down moments that we learn about ourselves more than at the heights of success. They strengthen intangible qualities of our character so that when success comes our way we have paid the price that is asked of life. Adversity is in the eye of the beholder. It is how we view adversity that determines our success.

It is a view of “how may I learn something of value from this?”. We learn more from our defeats more than our successes. During the storm it is a difficult question to ask. But it is an essential question that has to be asked of ourselves. For that value found may carry with it a seed of a greater equivalent that may propel us through the adversity we are facing.

It is a shift in focus from the negative emotions that lay siege to so many searching for the wrong answers when adversity strikes to a more positive nature. Your attention diverts your energy to the thing you are focusing on. That energy holds the power of wither a positive or negative nature. It is your choice how you use your energy when faced with a problem.

When you look for something of value from a situation or experience another shift occurs. It is a shift of a more positive energy to the adversity and with that a solution can be found. This usually happens in an unexpected way so you must keep your mind open for signs. When you search, you will be able to turn the tide. Turning a negative into a positive. Be persist and search for the answers. They will come to you.

When you come out of that tough time you will be stronger because of it. The one thing that you cannot do is give up. Giving up is never the answer. If needed seek out the help of others to aid you in solving the challenge. There are always others willing to lend a helping hand, words of advice or simply just a listening ear. But in the end others can’t do it for you, they may help but it is you alone that must weather the storm and come out on the other side.

Know that these times won’t last. The sun always shines after the darkest of nights. Just because things are good right now doesn’t mean that they can’t be better in the future. Find something of beauty in this storm for it will be your saving grace and will turn the tide of your life.