Before I begin I want to remind you that this is a more personalized book review. I’m going to share with you how this book changed my life and how this book might do the same for you.
I read this book about a year after reading think and grow rich. It was sometime about halfway through 2014. I was in the process of starting my own business while still working at a gym doing maintenance work and personal training. I remember one of the members of the gym telling me about this book so I decided to buy it.
By nature I am a very introverted person. I am usually quiet and shy, especially around new people. It took time for me to warm up to someone I didn’t know. I had trouble starting conversations even if I was knowledgeable and passionate about the subject. To put it frankly, I wasn’t the best with my communication skills. Not exactly a skill to be lacking in when you are trying to start a business.
All I can say is that I’m incredibly grateful that I read this book. It changed the whole dynamic of how I talk to others not only in business, but in daily life.
After reading it I began to practice the principles. How to win friends and influence people gave me a new confidence on how to effectively communicate with others. I learned that I didn’t always have to be the one doing the majority of the talking. Taking the time to genuinely listen to others and see things from their point of view. Most of all, it taught me how to influence others and become a leader. There is a reason why after over 80 years since being published it is still selling copies.
Now While I’m still an introvert by nature, my ability to have a positive impact on others through my communication skills has improved dramatically. I feel much more comfortable and confident in talking with others.
The language in the book is simple. That’s the way that the author Dale Carnegie intended it to be. There are several real life examples throughout the book to give a better understanding of each principle and how you may apply it into your daily life.
What can How to Win Friends and Influence People for You
We live in a world where communication is essential in our daily lives. Being able to effectively communicate with other people has more value than any form of education. If you can influence others, you can almost guarantee the outcome of your success. To learn effective communication skills can have a tremendous impact on your life.
For being shy and introverted like myself, it may help you in your ability to communicate with others on a more effective basis. This doesn’t mean that you have to talk more, it just means that you will be able to deliver your message to have a more favorable impression with the person you are speaking with.
If you want to win people over to your way of thinking subtly and genuinely. This is about building positive relations with others. Taking the time to show interest in others so that you can become interesting to others. I know that sounds weird but it works. Taking time to listen to others makes you a better conversationalist and become well liked by other people.
This one to me is the most valuable thing you can learn from how to win friends and influence people. The lesson is trying to see things from the other person’s point of view. If you can learn that, you can have a major influence on anyone you talk to. That is one of the most essential traits to have if you want to be successful in any endeavor in life.