Month: October 2019

Finding Your Purpose: Episode #2 Passion and Purpose

So last week i touched upon what the essence of purpose was. This week I’m going to talk about what passion and purpose have in common. Knowing the similarities between the two will give you some insight on helping your find your purpose.

To put it in the simplest terms, passion and purpose are twins. Where there is one the other is close by. Passion is about doing something that you absolutely love every single minute of the day.

Passion is the fuel of finding your purpose in life. Now I know what you’re thinking. Now I have to find my passion as well? No. You don’t have to do that. All I’m saying is that loving what you do plays a major role in finding your purpose.

Let me ask you a simple question. Are you doing what you love in life right now? Your career takes up over half of your life. That’s an incredible percentage of your life. It’s a lot of time spending your limited time on this earth doing something that you don’t love. Life’s just too damn short doing anything that doesn’t excite you each morning.

Does that mean you have to quit your job right now just because you don’t like it? No but it might be time to rethink about what you want to do for a living. If your job is draining your energy, leaving you stressed and unfulfilled. You become miserable. It doesn’t matter how much money you make. If you’re miserable no amount of money in the world will make you feel happy. Maybe for a moment it will but it is a temporary sensation.

The next question is: What do you love to do?

What do you never grow tired of? What excites you with enthusiasm and curiosity to always seek new knowledge? It can be anything. Take some time and write down a list of things you love to do. It could be blogging, writing, web design, graphic design, event planning, public speaking, motivating others, helping those less fortunate, taking care of your children. These examples are just a fraction of the possibilities.

Review your list. With each item think about whether or not you could make a living doing one of those things. Don’t count anything out. Just because you can’t think of something this instant doesn’t mean it can’t work. Sometimes you have to use your imagination and think outside the box. Keep your mind open to all ideas. Anytime an idea pops into your mind, write it down.

Don’t be discouraged if nothing seems to pop out at you when first doing this. It may take some time. Stay patient and keep searching. Keep positive in knowing that you’ll find a way to find something you love. Have faith in yourself and in your abilities. Trust me you are more powerful and resourceful than you give yourself credit for.

Next week I’ll be discussing the search for finding your purpose. Until next week remember. Don’t give up and keep your mind positive. You will find your purpose one day and it will be better than your wildest dreams. Have faith and be grateful for it as if you’ve already found it.

Journey of an Author #1 Introduction

Hi everyone!

I’m excited to start this series. As I mentioned vaguely in previous posts my ultimate goal for writing is to become a published author. It is a dream of mine that I’ve had for over the past 5 years. It’s been an on and off experience in writing it. But I’ve made the decision to make it a priority in my life.

Rewind 5 years ago, I was getting ready to quit the job I had at the time to start my own business. I took a week off before and had the idea for the book. The little spare time that I had I would write down some bullet points or a few paragraphs. Time was limited. I was talking to VC firms trying to gain funding, looking at properties and a million other things involved with starting a business. But that is another story.

Fast forward to about two months ago. I realized that something in my life was lacking. Expression. I had gotten so caught up with the tasks of my business life that I wasn’t giving myself a balance in my life. I’m a workaholic to put it lightly, if I want something I make it happen. But that same attitude created a void that made me not feel a deep sense of fulfillment. Something that every person desires.

I was going through some filing cabinets that I had, cleaning out years worth of notes, documents and various notebooks that I had (I handwrite almost everything). There it was the notebook of my book notes that I had. I put it on my desk with the thought of getting back to after all of these years. It didn’t happen.

It wasn’t until I read Finding your passion that I realized how much I missed writing in the creative sense. After finishing the book I decided then I would make the time to finally write my book.

Originally I named the book, Keep Breathing: Going from rock bottom to living your wildest dreams. After looking over some of the notes and a lot of brainstorming I realized that I couldn’t fit everything I wanted into one book. It would be way too long. So I decided to break it up into three separate books.

I’m going to make it a series. Keep breathing series. Why keep breathing because if you’re still breathing there is still hope for you to live a better life. These are going to be self-help books. It is my favorite genre and reading self-help has made a massive transformation in my life.

Right now I am working on the first book in the series. Want to know the title of it?

Rock Bottom: Rise From The Ashes. Rejuvenate Your Life

The book is about how you can rise from the depths of rock bottom and turn the tide of your life.

Why am I writing something like this? Because so many individuals fall to the pits of their own rock bottom and unfortunately some stay there for the remainder of their lives. It is a crying shame of humanity. So much wasted potential, dreams left to die, and happiness that was never brought to light.

Right now I am in the first rough draft of writing the book (yes I do hand write it). Later this week I will begin typing up the first section of the book. I will share excerpts of it during this journey of the author series. I thought that writing a book was going to be easy. But upon further research it does have a lot to it. Marketing, choosing the right book cover, formatting, editing, etc… I will learn as I go and share with you anything I find of value for any of you aspiring authors out there.

My plan for Rock Bottom is to have it published sometime in early 2020. I will keep you posted on that when I get closer to completion. As with anything in life it is a journey and I want to share my experiences with you.

Rock Bottom #1: Introduction

It is a freefall to which mankind has had so many souls fall into its depths. Some rise out some stay there trapped for the remainder of their days. We all know its ugly name. Many of us have been there at one time or another through the journey of life.

Infinite ways of slipping down its slopes and various levels within its depths. It is a chameleon of sorts with each individual having their own perspective of this so called “monster”.

Rock bottom is defined as at the lowest limit or level possible. Meaning that you have hit your low point in life. It happens to the best of us. Life has a fickle way of beating us to our knees and kicking us when we are down. It is a cruel teacher that has no sense empathy. Cold hard truth.

All too often when life knocks you down a swell of negative emotions reaches a boiling point. The response being “why is this happening to me?” With that fear, anger, and resentment towards the cruelties that life may bring, we never truly see the answer.

Usually rock bottom hits when we have given up fighting for what we truly want in life. The “I quit” echoes throughout the far reaches of the universe. Life is just playing a game.

Too many souls to count have never been able to rise from the pits that engulf their lives. Hope seems dead and there is no escape in sight. It is a quiet desperation that is endured.

It is in these moments when we must search for a light. It’s there somewhere. Even in the darkest of times you can always find a light. It may not be much light but it beats the darkness.

Rock bottom isn’t the end of your journey in life, it is the beginning. There you will learn more about yourself than in the highest points of success. Why? Because adversity builds character. Every defeat and every failure in life brings with it a goldmine. Valuable learning experiences that develop character. As with gold you have to search for this value.

In reality rock bottom isn’t always a bad thing. It is a learning experience that can make our lives more fulfilling in the long run. With those defeats, adversities and failures along the way, the taste of success becomes that much sweeter.

Let’s not look at rock bottom or the down times in life as a tragedy. Let’s look for the value in those situations. For that may turn our lives around.

Question of the Week #1

Are you better off now than you were a year ago?

The purpose of this new series is to get to know yourself a bit better every week. I will give you a question to ponder. Really take some time to reflect upon the question to see if you are on the right track with your life.

I wanted to start you out easy. This week’s question is a review of your events that have occurred over the course of a year.

Are you better off now than you were a year ago?

Time seems to move at a rapid rate. Days, weeks, and months fly by in the blink of an eye. Before we know it a year has passed.

Take a few moments to reflect upon where you were at this point last year. Here are a few questions to help you get to the root of the question.

  • What majors events have you experienced?
  • What about you has changed?
  • What new people have been introduced into your life? Have they helped you or hurt you?
  • What valuable lessons have you learned in the past year?
  • Do you feel that you’ve grown in a certain area of your life? (mentally, emotionally, spiritually)
  • Are you closer to achieving your dreams or desires in life?

Take your time, this isn’t a race. The more in depth your answers the more clarity you will have about who you are. Self-reflection is essential to growth in life.

How did you do? Has this year been a year of massive improvement in all areas of your life? If so, that’s amazing and keep up the great work! Don’t stop now!

Or did you feel as though you haven’t improved at all or have actually declined over the past year? No need to worry or beat yourself up about it. The past is the past. You have reflected upon it and learned a valuable lesson. Time to move on to greater things in your future. You can start right now, this instant to begin the process of self-improvement.

It’s never too late to begin. I encourage you to begin today. A year will pass and you will be amazed at the progress you made if you stick with it.

What did you find out from answering this question? If you are comfortable sharing your thoughts I would love to hear them.

Fireside Chats #1: Idleness


I’m glad to have you for this fireside chat. As the week comes to a close I have something important I want to share with you. This week we are going to be discussing idleness and how it affects so many lives.

Take a seat and let’s begin.

It is the killer of action, the destroyer of dreams, and the shackles to the grips of mediocrity. Only one thing can do so much damage. Idleness. It comes in several forms such as procrastination, laziness, and indecisiveness. All which end in the same result. The waste of the most precious gift given to us, time. It is something than can never be returned.

Tick tock the seconds pass by, never to be returned to the hourglass of life. It never stops. Life never stops moving forward. The whisper of the clock says to you “what are you doing with your time?”

See life never stops but humans do. Idleness is a poison to the soul and the mind. Avoiding the day or going through the day in an autonomous state. Idleness disguises itself in many ways. Idleness isn’t just about standing still. It is about the humdrum cycle of continuous action for the sole purpose of ending the day.

Idleness eventually destroys all hopes, dreams and aspirations for one’s life. At their inception dreams must be nurtured and some form of action must be taken immediately. The longer the dream sits within the mind idly, the doubts and fears creep in. Stagnation breeds the worst in mankind.

So why do so many sit in the crutches of idleness and procrastination? The answer is simple. Comfort. People go to great lengths to experience comfort in their day to day lives. Even if that comfort comes at the price of unhappiness. Humans have the innate quality of suffering in a quiet desperation for the sake of this conceived “comfort”.

So many will let life pass by without putting up a fight. Settling for the scraps of mediocrity. It is a shame that has filled the seas with the tears of so many souls throughout the centuries of time. Don’t fret about how you’ve idly let life pass you by. The past is dead and gone. Bury it and move on.

There is a light of hope to guide you from the depths that have consumed your life. It is the fact that today may be the first day of your new life.

This is your new life. A life that will no longer allow time to pass carelessly. You will no longer allow a day to pass without gaining something of value. How may you go about doing this? Action. It is the only remedy.

The action you take doesn’t have to be immense. Just one small step in the right direction to get you started. The key here is to get moving. Working on something new and exciting for your life. It’s time to get more out of life.

The essence of life is growth. To have more, be more, and do more with your life. Growth is something that isn’t painless, it isn’t comfortable. When you ask for more out of life, life will ask more out of you. It’s your job to rise to the challenge.

It’s time for you to chase those dreams that you have let sit idly within your mind. Don’t know where to start? Start researching ways to start the journey. Don’t know what you want out of life? Start searching and something will eventually spark your interest. Get started and don’t stop. You will find a way. Believe in yourself.

The sole reason you should practice idleness is to recharge your reserves. Short bursts to regain your energy so that you can keep pushing forward towards your dreams. Just remember that idleness for too long is the killer of dreams.

So you have begun this new day. What a marvelous day it is. For it is the first day of your new life. The resurrection from the pits of mediocrity and the escape from your own living death. Let’s consider this day a miracle. Your miracle.

I hope you enjoyed our chat. May today be the best day of your life and the coming days that will top today. Until we meet again next week I hope that your coming week is filled with joy and prosperity. Thank you for stopping by.

Book Review: Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You must ask Yourself By Henri Junttila

I ran across this book late one night skimming through Amazon Prime books. At the time I was at a crossroads in my life and wasn’t exactly sure what I wanted to do with my life. The universe has a subtle way of delivering things to you when you are actively searching.

I decided to give the book a try and I’m grateful that I did. If it wasn’t for this book I wouldn’t have started this blog or rekindled the drive to actually write my book. About halfway through I realized how much I enjoyed writing and made me wonder why I ever stopped a few years ago.

Enough about what the book did for me in finding my passion. Let’s talk about the more important question. What can the book do for you?

Passion is something that we all want in our lives but often it is seldom found without first digging deep and finding out more about ourselves. That is just what this book does. Consider it more of a workbook than an actual literary piece. The author recommends that you write down each answer on paper.

The questions range in their variety. Some questions seem a bit repetitive but the reason behind it is for the reader to dig deeper to potentially uncover any hidden desires. These are thought provoking questions. Each chapter (or question) gives a brief explanation to how the reader should approach the question. At the end there are a few sub-questions for you to answer to help you get to the root of your answers.

This book is short, less than 100 pages in total. But by no means is this a book to be read in a couple hours. Unless of course you just read it for leisure. This book is more of a journey of finding that passion in your life and discovering more about yourself along the way.

As with anything worthwhile in life finding your passion doesn’t happen overnight. The author recommends that you take time to think about the questions and allow yourself to get the best answers possible. You’d only be cheating yourself by giving partial answers.

Overall if you are someone who is actively trying to find out what they are passionate about, this book is for you. Right now you can read it for free with Kindle Unlimited. Or buy it for $2.99 for the ebook version or $9.99 for paperback.

I give this book a 4.5/5 rating.

Do you have any suggestions for self-help books that I should read and review? I’d love to hear your feedback.

Poetry & Creative Writing #1 Introduction

Okay this might be cheating but I found an old folder full of some of the poems I wrote years ago. I wanted to share a few of them with you. As I stated in a previous post I wanted to devote a day to just express creativity with my writing.

Here are a few of these poems:

Open Hands

Open hands I give to thee,

not to reap, nor ill words to speak.

An open heart to leave its mark,

a gentle soul to spark

To give unselfishly to brighten one’s day,

greater than all the flowers in the month of may.

For open hands I give to thee,

for the soul to seek, my heart to keep,

my eyes to peek and my mind to leap,

all to keep me from being weak and my future bleak.

The Beauty of the Journey

The dream begins within the clouds of thought,

with a shining beam it manifests into human form.

Not overnight nor within a short month,

but in the day to day struggles of a continuous cycle.

The nights are lonely and the plates are barren,

but the mind sings a different tune.

Of abundance and cheer,

Knowing that one day the dream will be real,

But we are in no hurry because the journey is zeal.

It is not the dream but the journey that makes life fruitful,

who you become, not what you accomplish is the real prize,

For a beautiful journey trumps the dream any day.

The Unknown of Love

Love is an uncontrollable influence,

you can’t force it,

nor can you truly run from it.

You can’t speed it up,

nor slow it down,

all you can do is go along for the ride.

Their is beauty,

as well as pain,

true love,

and heartbreak.

In this uncontrollable influence called love,

we must embrace the unknown,

for we know not what it may bring.

For as long as we have a glimmer of love left in our hearts,

the sun will always rise.

Because with love if it’s meant to be,

it’ll be.

I have more poems and I might share them from time to time.

Do you have any ideas for writing prompts? I would love to hear from you.

Finding Your Purpose: Episode #1 What is the Essence of Purpose?

Finding our purpose in life is one of those deep burning questions asked by humanity. What is my purpose in life? What was I put on this earth to do? These questions keep us up at night pondering our existence. A daily crusade to find the holy grail of answers. We continue to battle each day hoping to gain some insight into this mysterious question.

But to understand how to find our purpose we must get to the core. By this I mean that we must know what the essence of purpose is. By definition purpose means the reason for which something exists or is done. That can be a multitude of answers. A fingerprint of sorts because no two sets are exactly identical by nature.

Purpose has an almost infinite number of forms in the tangible world. Too many to name. What if I told you that the essence of purpose is composed of not tangible assets you can hold in your hand but intangibles? Hard to believe I know. It’s the truth though.

At its core, purpose is the composition of thoughts, emotions and energy that gives the individual a deep sense of fulfillment that permeates through every fiber. We look outwardly to find what our purpose is in life. Money, people, material possessions, or anything else we can project into the outside world.

We must look inwardly to truly find the answer of our purpose. To the intangible qualities of its composition that can’t be seen by the human eye. It is the composition of four main qualities that I’m going to share with you. Once you know what the essence of purpose is you will know where to begin your search for it.

Here are the main qualities in the essence of purpose:

1. Peace of Mind

The mind is your most powerful tool at your disposal. It can be your greatest ally or your worst enemy. That choice is yours to make because we have been gifted with the power over but one thing, our thoughts. The mind works in mysterious ways that even to this day humanity is still trying to uncover its secrets.

When you have found your purpose in life there will be a peace within your mind, a sense of calm that can’t be shaken even in the worst of storms. Your thoughts will be dominated by positive energy with absolute faith in the end result. You are certain with your path in life and continue down it regardless of the obstacles you face.

2. Love in the Heart

Love is the most powerful of human emotions. With love anything is possible. Love is something that must be felt to truly experience its beauty and splendor. Love in its true form is pure, it is unselfishly given with no thought of return.

With your purpose it is something that you love unconditionally, from the deepest chambers of your heart. It is a labor of love in the day to day process of the endeavor. That love doesn’t dissipate, doesn’t falter, it only continues to blossom as each sunrise brings about a new day.

3. Nourishment of the Soul

To understand this we must first know the essence of life. What is the essence of life? Growth. We as humans seek constant growth in our lives. Not in the terms of growing in height. That is something we can’t control. I mean growth in all areas in life. Growth in relationships, gaining new knowledge, emotional growth, spiritual growth. Growth is essential in life because when we grow we live. When growth stops, we slowly begin dying inside.

This one is simple. When you have found your purpose you will be on a continual path of growth in your life. You will strive for more out of life on a constant basis. Why? Because your soul comes alive when you are in the pursuit of growth. You get more out of each day and find value in all of life’s experiences.

4. Bliss

Happiness is an emotion. Bliss is a state of being that is almost indescribable to the written word. Paradise is the closest word for bliss but it still doesn’t describe it enough. You know why? Because bliss is something that is intangible to the five senses we are given at birth. The only way bliss can truly be felt is when the three other factors listed above are in perfect harmony.

There is no describing this one for your purpose. All I may say is that if you have mastered the first three qualities of purpose and they are in harmony. You’ll be in bliss. How will you know? You just will. You will be certain of it without a cloud of doubt.

So now you know the essence of purpose. You now know that purpose isn’t something that can see seen by the eye or held in your hands. It’s something that is comprised of your mind, body and soul.

You have taken the first step in understanding your purpose in life. No may not know all of the answers to that burning question. That’s okay. It will come in time. The important thing is that you are on the path.

Let’s walk this path together. For everyone has a purpose. You will find yours. Don’t give up the search. I will lend a helping hand and we will find it together.

So You Want To Be A Writer?

If it doesn’t come bursting out of you in spite of everything,

don’t do it.

Unless it comes unmasked out of your heart and your mind and your mouth and your gut,

don’t do it.

If you have to sit for hours staring at your computer screen or hunched over your typewriter searching for words,

don’t do it.

If you’re doing it for money or fame,

don’t do it.

If you’re doing it because you want women in your bed,

don’t do it.

If you have to sit there and rewrite it again and again,

don’t do it.

If it’s hard work just thinking about doing it,

don’t do it.

If you’re trying to write like somebody else,

forget about it.

If you have to wait for it to roar out of you,

then wait patiently

if it never does roar out of you,

do something else.

If you have to read it to your wife or your girlfriend or your boyfriend or your parents or to anybody at all,

you’re not ready.

Don’t be like so many writers,

don’t be like so many thousands of people who call themselves writers,

don’t be dull or boring and pretentious,

don’t be consumed with self-love.

The libraries of the world have yawned themselves to sleep over your kind.

Don’t add to that.

Don’t do it.

Unless it comes out of your soul like a rocket,

unless being still would drive you to madness or suicide or murder,

don’t do it.

Unless the sun inside you is burning your gut,

don’t do it.

When it is truly time,

and you have been chosen,

you will do it by itself and keep on doing it until you die or it dies within you.

There is no other way

And there never was

Charles Bukowski

Isn’t this the truth when it comes to writing? It isn’t about the money or fame, it is about the small voice inside that is burning to have a story told to the world. It is about expression and finding our voice for the story to be told.

Do I agree with everything this poem has to say? No. But the essence of it resonates with me as a writer. Writing isn’t a simple task even though others might think that. It is just like any endeavor that one takes on. It is filled with good days and bad, obstacles that have to be overcome and a persistent drive to never surrender.

It is a battle with the greatest foe of all, the mind. Where creativity, knowledge and expression come into one place, through the written word. Through countless defeats and persistent effort one may find their voice, the most coveted aim of them all. For that voice will reverberate with the reader and imprint into the soul.